Strong/Happy Family Tips
Ideas to make a happy and strong family. No particular order. List being generated.
Most of these ideas have been used in my family. If you have a dull/flat/tasteless marriage and/or family, you have too short a list of family strategies, or you are not trainable. Train yourself and your spouse, starting now.
3 fundamental rules for a happy marriage and family. Ignoring any of these rules is asking for trouble.
1. Find a quality spouse who will stick with you and nobody else, forever. Returned missionaries improve the odds. Find people who serve others frequently.
2. Improve your character to be Christlike. Think and act like the Saviour. Participate in Sunday school and priesthood/Relief Society lessons. Go to the temple frequently, where the Lord works on your character.
3. Develop strategies for happy families. See below. Follow the example of neighbors' happy families.
Principle: when you find something good and useful, it is fine to be greedy and load up all you can, as fast as you can. Roll up a 100-car freight train, and tell the shippers "Get moving. Bring me more. Now!"
1. Frame and put the "Proclamation On The Family" on the wall. See http://www.lds.org
2. Hold family home evening every week.
3. Have family and personal prayer every day.
4. Read the scriptures (especially the Book Of Mormon) every day.
5. Read the Book Of Mormon to your newborn babies. They learn the complex sentence structure.
6. Say "Love you-lots-tons of lots" many times per day, to wife/husband and children.
7. Play classical music in the house. See Michael Ballam video on rock music brain damage.
8. Thank wife and children for their help with chores.
8. Compliment whoever cleaned the kitchen, on how amazing the kitchen looks.
9. Forbid swear words in the house.
10. Let the children make family gospel rules (example: our teenage girls' rule on reading labels for caffeine).
11. Put humor into your life (example: watching for cars depends on how flat you want to be).
12. Take the children to see temples. Walk around the temple grounds.
13. Put temple pictures on the walls.
14. Work with the children on household chores. Assign and rotate chores. (Good first-grade teaching tool.)
15. Bear your testimony of the gospel to family and in testimony meeting. Encourage children in theirs.
16. Carry out stated penalties for disobeying rules (many examples in the scriptures).
17. Give children attention as needed, not just when convenient..
18. Accept that your marriage and family will not be immediately perfect. That may take 1000's of years.
19. Play down differences of opinion. Accept different opinions as part of mortal life.
20. Be trainable. Look for better ideas in marriage and family.
21. Tell your wife/husband what you want, but be nonchalant about not getting it.
22. Enforce the rule about no dating before age 16.
23. Put the Book Of Mormon and Bible in noticeable places in the living room.
24. Hang a "Raehl - A Forever Family" (your family's name) sign at the house entrance.
25. Get a memorable car license plate for your wife (TOPWIFE/BESTWIF/CUTYPIE).
26. Take the children to classical music concerts (matinees).
27. Hug your wife and children frequently (wife many times per day).
28. Give your wife/husband lots of "hot stuff" looks per day (2nd/3rd/4th look each time).
29. Tell your wife she's scorching hotter than any collection of movie stars.
30. Encourage your children to find high-quality friends.
31. Tell your children about the 5-second kiss rule. Read my post.
32. Husbands give priesthood blessings as needed.
33. Leave love notes to your wife/husband lying around (Wifer is ----)
34. Give the children music lessons (piano etc). Buy a piano.
35. Frequently tell your children they are such a good boy/girl. You are very proud of them.
36. Set an honesty example. Let the children watch as you complain about grocery stores charging too little.
37. Hold progress interviews with your children.
38. Keep the childrens' papers and drawings in a folder or scrapbook for each.
39. Encourage the family to write journals.
40. Read stories to the children. Substitute their names for story characters.
41. Encourage the family to research ancestors' names. Submit those names for temple work.
42. Tell the children that Gramma didn't really die. She just moved to heaven to help them from there.
43. Encourage the children to prepare for missions. "This will help you on your mission."
44. Encourage teenage children to perform baptisms in the temple.
45. Take the children to church every Sunday. Allow them to draw on paper, to keep reverent.
46. Work with the children to learn to cook, mend clothes, etc.
47. Search http://www.lds.org for "family relations". Read General Conference talks on families.
48. Teach your children full English (or your language) as soon as they can talk. Teach sign language before.
49. Ask your neighbors how they solved your current problem.
50. Smile a lot, especially at your wife/husband and children.
51. Encourage your children to play/make friends with other children. Let them be children.
52. Be wary of office romances. Keep your personal life at home while working.
53. Spend one-on-one time with each of your children, periodically.
54. Read my post on keeping a wife happy.
55. Take your family camping, state fair, canoeing.
56. Kiss your wife/husband every time you leave the house for work, school, errands.
57. Tell others (testimony meeting) that your family loves you, and you love them too.
58. Realize living prophets keep you out of the fog, because they talk face-to-face with the Lord.
59. Use clever tactics to train husband/wife. Compliment their learned skills.
60. One-up your spouse's requests. She asks to say "amazing", one-up "mind-boggling amazing".
61. Teach the family to research anything anyone says, using the Sprit of the Lord for guidance.
62. Teach the family good health habits, and the usefulness of herbs.
63. Listen to everyone else's advice, using the Spirit of the Lord as a guide.
64. Listen/watch LDS General Conference together as a family, with treat rewards (box of ice cream).
65. One-up the Bishop's suggestions-read Book of Mormon 3 times per year, not just once.
66. Teach the children to work, no chore help means no allowance. Everything is done by someone.
67. Go to the temple often, watch for symbols/lessons in everything seen/heard/done.
68. Say "Please" and "Thank-You" frequently to your spouse and children.
69. Restrict TV watching, computer gaming, Internet social media, to very little. Talk with family instead.
70. Get amateur (ham) radio licenses, and participate in radio communication events.
71. Listen to classical music frequently in the home. See Michael Ballam comments on benefits.
72.Teach the children that if they burn their bridges, they have a mess if the situation rights itself.
73. Teach the children that they can choose anything, but they cannot choose the consequences.
74.
Most of these ideas have been used in my family. If you have a dull/flat/tasteless marriage and/or family, you have too short a list of family strategies, or you are not trainable. Train yourself and your spouse, starting now.
3 fundamental rules for a happy marriage and family. Ignoring any of these rules is asking for trouble.
1. Find a quality spouse who will stick with you and nobody else, forever. Returned missionaries improve the odds. Find people who serve others frequently.
2. Improve your character to be Christlike. Think and act like the Saviour. Participate in Sunday school and priesthood/Relief Society lessons. Go to the temple frequently, where the Lord works on your character.
3. Develop strategies for happy families. See below. Follow the example of neighbors' happy families.
Principle: when you find something good and useful, it is fine to be greedy and load up all you can, as fast as you can. Roll up a 100-car freight train, and tell the shippers "Get moving. Bring me more. Now!"
1. Frame and put the "Proclamation On The Family" on the wall. See http://www.lds.org
2. Hold family home evening every week.
3. Have family and personal prayer every day.
4. Read the scriptures (especially the Book Of Mormon) every day.
5. Read the Book Of Mormon to your newborn babies. They learn the complex sentence structure.
6. Say "Love you-lots-tons of lots" many times per day, to wife/husband and children.
7. Play classical music in the house. See Michael Ballam video on rock music brain damage.
8. Thank wife and children for their help with chores.
8. Compliment whoever cleaned the kitchen, on how amazing the kitchen looks.
9. Forbid swear words in the house.
10. Let the children make family gospel rules (example: our teenage girls' rule on reading labels for caffeine).
11. Put humor into your life (example: watching for cars depends on how flat you want to be).
12. Take the children to see temples. Walk around the temple grounds.
13. Put temple pictures on the walls.
14. Work with the children on household chores. Assign and rotate chores. (Good first-grade teaching tool.)
15. Bear your testimony of the gospel to family and in testimony meeting. Encourage children in theirs.
16. Carry out stated penalties for disobeying rules (many examples in the scriptures).
17. Give children attention as needed, not just when convenient..
18. Accept that your marriage and family will not be immediately perfect. That may take 1000's of years.
19. Play down differences of opinion. Accept different opinions as part of mortal life.
20. Be trainable. Look for better ideas in marriage and family.
21. Tell your wife/husband what you want, but be nonchalant about not getting it.
22. Enforce the rule about no dating before age 16.
23. Put the Book Of Mormon and Bible in noticeable places in the living room.
24. Hang a "Raehl - A Forever Family" (your family's name) sign at the house entrance.
25. Get a memorable car license plate for your wife (TOPWIFE/BESTWIF/CUTYPIE).
26. Take the children to classical music concerts (matinees).
27. Hug your wife and children frequently (wife many times per day).
28. Give your wife/husband lots of "hot stuff" looks per day (2nd/3rd/4th look each time).
29. Tell your wife she's scorching hotter than any collection of movie stars.
30. Encourage your children to find high-quality friends.
31. Tell your children about the 5-second kiss rule. Read my post.
32. Husbands give priesthood blessings as needed.
33. Leave love notes to your wife/husband lying around (Wifer is ----)
34. Give the children music lessons (piano etc). Buy a piano.
35. Frequently tell your children they are such a good boy/girl. You are very proud of them.
36. Set an honesty example. Let the children watch as you complain about grocery stores charging too little.
37. Hold progress interviews with your children.
38. Keep the childrens' papers and drawings in a folder or scrapbook for each.
39. Encourage the family to write journals.
40. Read stories to the children. Substitute their names for story characters.
41. Encourage the family to research ancestors' names. Submit those names for temple work.
42. Tell the children that Gramma didn't really die. She just moved to heaven to help them from there.
43. Encourage the children to prepare for missions. "This will help you on your mission."
44. Encourage teenage children to perform baptisms in the temple.
45. Take the children to church every Sunday. Allow them to draw on paper, to keep reverent.
46. Work with the children to learn to cook, mend clothes, etc.
47. Search http://www.lds.org for "family relations". Read General Conference talks on families.
48. Teach your children full English (or your language) as soon as they can talk. Teach sign language before.
49. Ask your neighbors how they solved your current problem.
50. Smile a lot, especially at your wife/husband and children.
51. Encourage your children to play/make friends with other children. Let them be children.
52. Be wary of office romances. Keep your personal life at home while working.
53. Spend one-on-one time with each of your children, periodically.
54. Read my post on keeping a wife happy.
55. Take your family camping, state fair, canoeing.
56. Kiss your wife/husband every time you leave the house for work, school, errands.
57. Tell others (testimony meeting) that your family loves you, and you love them too.
58. Realize living prophets keep you out of the fog, because they talk face-to-face with the Lord.
59. Use clever tactics to train husband/wife. Compliment their learned skills.
60. One-up your spouse's requests. She asks to say "amazing", one-up "mind-boggling amazing".
61. Teach the family to research anything anyone says, using the Sprit of the Lord for guidance.
62. Teach the family good health habits, and the usefulness of herbs.
63. Listen to everyone else's advice, using the Spirit of the Lord as a guide.
64. Listen/watch LDS General Conference together as a family, with treat rewards (box of ice cream).
65. One-up the Bishop's suggestions-read Book of Mormon 3 times per year, not just once.
66. Teach the children to work, no chore help means no allowance. Everything is done by someone.
67. Go to the temple often, watch for symbols/lessons in everything seen/heard/done.
68. Say "Please" and "Thank-You" frequently to your spouse and children.
69. Restrict TV watching, computer gaming, Internet social media, to very little. Talk with family instead.
70. Get amateur (ham) radio licenses, and participate in radio communication events.
71. Listen to classical music frequently in the home. See Michael Ballam comments on benefits.
72.Teach the children that if they burn their bridges, they have a mess if the situation rights itself.
73. Teach the children that they can choose anything, but they cannot choose the consequences.
74.
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